Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”

bell hooks

If any female feels she need anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency.

bell hooks, Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics

“All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.”

bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?

bell hooks

“Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.”

bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love